The word confidence is hard to find. It is accepting your flaws and having self-esteem. Presently, a lot of teenagers are self-doubting base on my perspective. And these lead to unhappiness, and also afraid of trying that results of not living your life to the fullest.

It could affect everyone around you. Sometimes I ask myself: Am I doing right? Should I be worried about how someone sees me as a person? Should I regard their negative comments for me? Is there any chance that I could find the Lost Confidence?

HOW I LOST MY SELF-CONFIDENCE

There are a lot of things/events in my life that made my confidence took the wrong path towards me. These are;

Being a Pessimistic 
My mindset isn't healthy anymore. The way I think is very toxic to the point that everything I encounter challenges I feel hopeless. Instead of letting myself grow, I gave way to anxiety. I've remained pessimistic since when I was in high school. One time we had a problem in our family and school works was overload. And with that, I negatively view everything. 

Lack of Self-Trust 
Lacking self-trust has a large effect on me. This made me conscious of everything I do. I'm not trying my best because I feel so down. I want to try but I'm afraid of failing. Sometimes, I want to approach someone, and I want to join something, I hesitate to do so because I'm afraid of rejections. 

Physical Flaws
I didn't mind how I look way back in elementary days. Then again when I was in junior high, I experienced bullying. They were teasing me because of my flaws. I always feel I'm not good enough. I view myself as an ugly duckling. I regularly think about my eyebags, broad forehead, pimples, and everything that makes me look uglier. This is one of the vastest reasons for losing my confidence. 

Person
Honestly, I built my confidence my ex. I was happy because finally, we're going make to it. All we have to do is to make it stronger, better and unbreakable. But when he left and found a beautiful lady, the confidence we made broke into pieces. It's ironic because he was one of the greatest sources but in the end, he is the one who will break it away.   

STEPS I MADE TO FIND MY CONFIDENCE

Be optimistic

I should always consider things. I have to consider if I'm doing it right. I should think if what would be the effect if I will stay like this. I have to renew my mindset. I realized it will never do good to me. Be happy, stay positive, accept challenges. I know it will make me a better person. 

Love Yourself 

I've thought that "If you will love someone, you should love yourself first. In loving yourself includes trusting yourself, being confident of what is given to you". Therefore, I should embrace everything about me because God gave it, it's a blessing, not a burden. 

Love your Flaws

"Never mind the people who hurt you, don't think negative things they will say to you. Make a bad opinion as an inspiration. God gave this to me because he knows this is what makes me unique as an individual".  That is what I bear in my mind. 

Acceptance

Accept everything, and that's the way to find the lost confidence. Accept your flaws, challenges in life and accept that some people will come and go into our lives. God has perfect timing for all. He prepared everything for me, I know everything happens for a reason. In God's time and God's will. I will be the person I want to be soon. 

View challenges in a positive way. You'll never know God gave you those problems, rejections, struggles, and failures to mold you into a better person. Remember, there's nothing wrong with trying things out. I've realized nothing will happen if I will not try. Don't be scared there will always be room for improvement. Head up high!  Stand tall, but keep your feet on the ground. You're made to be you not to be a perfect person. We don't have to adjust for others as long as we know our limitations in life. Learn, people come and go. Accept people who come into your life, they're either a blessing or a lesson. Most of all you must acknowledge God always. Pray and ask guidance in everything you do. Give thanks, If life fails you God will not. He will never get tired of loving and forgiving us. God bless you!